Pediatricians Finally Recommend Routine Autism Screenings For Earlier Diagnosis And Treatment

The American Academy Of Pediatrics is finally recommending routine screenings for autism - 2 screenings before the age of 2. Although most physicians and members of the medical community believe there is no cure for autism, early detection and treatment can undeniably lesson the severity of the disorder. The sooner autism can be flagged and diagnosed, the sooner this important and vital treatment can begin.

Unfortunately, it’s usually only after months of noticed delays that a parent or caregiver will mention concerns to their pediatricians. For example, language delays usually prompt parents to bring these delays to their pediatrician’s attention at around 18 months - too late for the earliest intervention. Experts say there are much earlier warning signs for which parents should be on the lookout - such as :

1. A baby not responding to a parent or caregiver calling his name;

2. A baby not directing parents or caregivers to look at or interact with an object that interests the baby;

3. Lack of a baby babbling to initiate a back and forth exchange between parent and caregiver and baby;

4. Failure of a baby to smile at or make contact with parents or caregivers;

5. A baby who shows a preference to hard “lovie” items like ballpoint pens, action figures, or flashlights rather than soft “lovies” typically associated with babies, like blankets, stuffed animals, or a special pillow.

There are also “red flags” the are indications for which a pediatrician should conduct an immediate evaluation for autism. These are:

1. No babbling, pointing or attempts at engaging gestures by 12 months of age;

2 No words attempted by 16 months of age;

3. No two word phrases by 24 months of age;

4. Loss of language, social skills, or a willingness or attempt to engage others at any age.

In addition to parent’s noticing developmental delays or issues that could indicate autism earlier, pediatricians can do their part by eliciting conversations that may help make an earlier diagnosis.
Pediatricians are now being encouraged to ask about any parental or caregiver observations of such behaviors at every well-baby visit. If any of the concerns raise a red flag toward autism, the pediatrician should use a standardized screening tool. Non withstanding any red flags, pediatricians are now encouraged to conduct an autism screening on all children between 18 and 24 months old, even if there have not been any parental or caregiver concerns.

These new guidelines are undoubtedly in response to the alarming and growing number of children diagnosed with autism each year and an attempt to diagnose much earlier to obtain better treatment options and results.




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Descriptions And Alternatives To The View's Elizabeth Hasselback's "Must Have" Baby Items

The View's Elizabeth Hasselback began her maternity leave this week. She's due to have her second baby in November. Before she left, she graced viewers with her must-have baby items, while giving audience members all of the items free. Most of the items are super-pricey but do offer the latest in baby convenience, safety and organization: Here's a description of Elizabeth's must have items, complete with the price tag. Some of the more expensive items have reasonably-priced alternatives which are every bit as cute as the original - at a fraction of the costs:

Storksak Bags (Link): These chic, mostly leather diaper bags run about $150-$300, depending on size and materials. No doubt they are beautiful bags that look nothing like a diaper bag. But, considering you will be putting dirty diapers and spit cloths in them, the price tag is hard to swallow. There are countless cute, inexpensive alternatives on ebay - most less than $50 Also, Nunzia's Fall Diaper Bag (Link): looks very similar to Storksak's version for only about $60.

Diaper bag organizer pouches from babycrazy.com: These are cute little diaper bag organizers run under $20. They are plastic, compact, washable and can be used to seal dirty diapers or used to keep snacks from spilling while keeping them fresh.

ERGO® Baby Carrier (Link): The ERGO Baby Carrier is supposed to feature an ergonomic design that encourages the baby to sit in a position that correctly supports baby's hips pelvis and spine while alleviating physical stress on the parent that is carrying the baby. This baby carrier costs about $90. Baby Basic's version is $15, while Infantino (Link) has a carrier that looks very similar to Ergo for only $20.

Snack-traps(Link): These cute little snack containers have a lid that allows the child to get the snack out easily, but closes when the child removes his hands so that the snack can't spill - no matter what. Very reasonable at around $15 for three containers.

Fisher-Price® Rainforest™ Swing and Bouncer (Link): This is bouncer is basically a kicked-up version of the old, classic basic baby bouncer that offers baby a chance to play while he's bouncing. The baby can turn 360 degrees so he can play with the electronic music and lights, the bobbling elephant, the swinging monkey, the hanging parrot, the hide and seek tiger, or the rattling lizard. This item retails for about $80. Baby Einstein's Water Rocker Seat (Link):is loved by parents at only $60.

Books by Robert Crowther (Link), Julie Appel (Link)), Amy Guglielmo (Link): These are amazing children's books that are actually little works of art in the pages of a book. These interactive, touch and feel and pop up books explore transportation and several different types of modern and classic art by famous artists. They are about $10 each.

Mabel's Sticky Labels: Mabel's sticky labels stand up to the dishwasher, the microwave,and active children. There are several different types - which stick on everything from toys, containers, clothes, backpacks, cups and more. They retail for about $20 for each set.

On-the-Go Potty (Link): This little portable potty would be great if you have a toddler and are stuck somewhere without a toilet. It has a tripod base to which you attach one of the disposable bags and pads. (The system comes with 5 bags and pads. You can use a garbage bag with any type of disposable pad (nursing or sanitary pad) once you run out.) It retails for about $30.

Britax Diplomat Car Seat (Link): This car seat is designed for use in smaller vehicles that are becoming popular today and is also great for use in airplanes. However, it's quite expensive with a $260 price tag. Safety First's All In One Car Seat (Link)is a very viable alternative at $150.

BéBé Au Lait™ Hooter Hiders (Link): This is a pretty, discrete nursing cover that allows a nursing mother to see and bond with her baby without revealing her breasts. It retails for about $35.

Here are Elizabeth's Must Haves:



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Helping Kids Cope With Natural Disasters, Tragedy Or Change (Like The California Wildfires)

The troubling exposure of wildfires destroying homes, lives and property in California can be devastating to both children and families directed effected by the fires and those witnessing the destruction on television and through print media.
Many parents and caregivers wonder how to best handle children’s questions and concerns about the wildfires (or other upsetting events that children might encounter in everyday life.) Children often ask questions because they are seeking reassurance about how the events are going to effect their day to day lives. Here are some ways to effectively provide the reassurance that children are seeking:

1. Give Immediate And Continued Reassurance: When tragedy like the wildfires strikes, a child's world view is temporarily shaken. The world is no longer a safe and predictable place. Immediately give careful, honest answers and reassurance. Gently offer limited explanations that contain only as much age-appropriate information that the child needs to know. Over explaining will often create more anxiety for a child. Give very simple explanations: “There are large fires in California but the firefighters are doing their very best to put them out.” A child’s greatest fear in stressful situations is being lost or left alone. Offer reassurances like “We’re together now and I’ll always do my best to protect you.”

2. Limit Your Family’s Exposure To Troubling Images: It’s natural to be concerned and curious about the latest turn of events during trying circumstances. But young children often do not understand that the images they see happened previously. Many assume that they are watching a live event and will assume that everything they see is happening in real time. They will assume the event is happening over and over again and will be reinjured each time. Reliving these emotions delay healing for both children and adults.

3. Provide Experiences That Connect People, Release Tension & Promote Healing After A Crisis: Aggression and angst are normal after periods of change or turmoil. Give your family creative outlets where they can release these feelings and frustrations, forge a connection with others, and help heal. Older children can help with community service activities and encourage younger children to draw get well cards or journal to express their feelings. Take some blankets or clothes to the Red Cross as a family or reach out to families who are going through tough situations to see how you can help.

4. Seek Out Additional Or Professional Help If Needed: After a crises, it can be normal for children to regress to past behaviors like bedwetting, thumb sucking or aggression. Watch for prolonged, severe concerns like school problems, extreme anger or listlessness, risky behavior, social withdrawal or repeatedly making the event a primary focus of life. Seeking professional help doesn’t mean your child is at fault or that you couldn’t help your child. It just means you’re a concerned parent who is getting your child the help he needs.

There are many books, resources and professionals that can help families transition tragedy or change like the California wildfires. Do not hesitate to use them if needed. That's why they are there.

Natural disasters and tragedy like the California wildfires can unsettle both the kids and families directly affected and those who only witness the events from afar. Parents can do a great deal to help reassure frightened or concerned children that there are caring individuals and helpful resources available that will help provide reassurance and relief.



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How Should Parents Answer Questions About Dumbledore Being Gay?

JK Rowling, author of the series of Harry Potter books, recently revealed that Albus Dumbledore, beloved head master of Harry Potters' Hogwarts, was, in her eyes, gay.

Following Dumbledore's outing, the Internet is full of parental comments indicating feelings of betrayal. How could Rowling, they say, allow their children to come to know, love and respect Dumbledore only to announce (after the fact) that he is gay - leaving unprepared parents to explain their children's questions about homosexuality? Here is advice on how to deal with the sudden Dumbledore dilemma:

1. Calmly Evaluate The Situation: First determine the reality of your situation. If your children have not heard the news themselves and are not asking questions, there is no reason to tell them right now unless you want to. Since there is absolutely no overt homosexual references in any of the books, there is very little possibility that a child would pick up on Dumbledore's "gayness." If you would rather not discuss homosexuality in the same discussion as Harry Potter, there is no reason why you can't act as if nothing has happened and allow your children to enjoy the books as written.

2. If You're Asked Questions About Dumbledore's Coming Out, Consider Your Child's Age And Respond Appropriately: If your child hears about Dumbledore's homosexuality and asks you about it, use this as an opportunity to speak openly and give your child the accurate information you want him to know. The truth is, sooner or later, your child will overhear references to homosexuality and will have questions. So make sure you're the one supplying the information rather than letting your child form an understanding or opinion about homosexuality from his young peers - who may not be giving him information you'd like him to internalize.

For Preschoolers And Young Children: Preschoolers aren't mature enough to process much information about homosexuality. Most children will usually be content with simplistic responses. Answer exactly what your child asked - nothing more. Often, parents will become nervous and try to over explain - leading to an over response to a question your child never asked. If asked, for example "what does gay mean?" you need only tell a preschooler "Gay if a phrase people sometimes use to describe a relationship." Most preschoolers are fine with this.

For Older Children And Preteens: Many parents worry that openly talking about sexual preference might sway their children's later sexual practices. There is a much evidence which suggests this just is not accurate. Children at this age are extremely curious about how relationships work. They are also usually exposed to homosexual concepts by this time. It's OK to tell them that sometimes when two people want to have a relationship, all that is required is they are two people - not necessarily a man or a woman. School aged children usually have a strong sense of right and wrong so this might be a good time to discuss discrimination.

3. Make Sure Your Children Know They Were Right To Ask And You Are Open To Their Questions: When you speak openly, honestly and from the heart about your children's questions, you are showing them that you are the right person to ask the tough questions. You want your children to remember this when they are faced with important choices or crossroads. Show your child you will give him accurate information and if you don't know the best answer, you will immediately find it out for him. Doing so will lay the foundation of openness and trust that you want to be the cornerstone of your home.

4. Believe It Or Not, Most Kids Will Not Care About Dumbledore's Sexuality: My son and I were watching a football game, when the announcer said "this game is more shocking than Dumbledore's coming out." My 8 year old gasped and sputtered "Dumbledore's gay?" I was a bit taken aback that he knew the term "coming out," but I immediately goggled the information and within 10 minutes, we knew about Rowling's view on Dumbledore's sexuality. My son merely shrugged and said "He's a good guy to me. He did most things right except always hiring the wrong Dark Arts teacher." I honestly don't think my son has given Dumbledore's coming out a second thought. He chooses to focus on Dumbledore's character, intelligence and loyalty, which I think is precisely the point Rowling intended to make when she thrust Dumbledore "out of the closet."

How To Squeeze A 10 Minute Workout Into Everyday (Even For Parents)

With several recent studies indicating that short 10 minute sporadic workouts offer significant benefits in cardiovascular health, fat distribution, blood pressure and mood, there's no longer any excuse not to get moving. The number one excuse people give for a lack of exercise is a lack of time, but you can easily add 10 minutes of exercise into a typical day by incorporating physical fitness into the activities you're already doing. Here are 5 ways to achieve a 10 minute workout with no additional time and minimal additional effort - worthwhile effort that virtually guarantees health and mental benefits.

Add Steps: Walk whenever you can. If your destination is less than a mile away, walk there. Doing so will help you obtain your 10 daily minutes of exercise effortlessly. Take the stairs instead of the elevator or escalator at every opportunity. Walking behind a stroller is great exercise for you and your baby will enjoy the fresh air.

Make TV Time 10 minute Workout Time: Obtain your 10 minutes of exercise while watching your (or your child's) favorite television program. An hour long sitcom will typically have 20 minutes of commercials. That's double the 10 minutes of exercise required and much more daily exercise than most Americans get. Alternate between cardio (jogging in place, jumping jacks) with strength training (push ups, sit ups, bicep curls).

Spot Train For 10 minutes While You're Idle: Waiting and idle time are unavoidable parts of life. From the school car line to being placed on hold to waiting at appointments, waiting and idle time eat up valuable minutes in your day - minutes during which you could be exercising. You can squeeze in a 10 minute spot and strength training workout during this otherwise wasted time. Do calf raises while waiting in the grocery line. Do butt squeezes in the car line, waiting for appointments or even at red lights. Sprint up and down the stairs while waiting on hold or playing telephone tag.

Put Muscle And Speed Into Everyday Chores: Errands, chores and housecleaning do burn some calories, but if you put some muscle and speed behind them, you'll burn significantly more, get your heart rate up, and complete tasks in much less time. You can work up quite a sweat moving a lawn, washing a car or moping a floor if you move fast enough. Put some real speed and muscle into these activities and you've completed your ten minutes of exercise and then some.

Include Your Family: Including children, partners and friends in your 10 minute workout is a great way to create quality time with those you love, make the the time go faster, and make exercising more enjoyable. Unfortunately, most children don't get enough exercise either, so go swimming, bike riding or roller-skating as a family. Play a rigorous game of tag. Enjoying high energy activities together brings you closer as a family while it strengthens all of you physically. Dancing with (or even having sex) with your partner is a fun way to burn calories and share intimacy. Taking a quick power walk with a friend is a more productive way to catch up than grabbing a cup of coffee.

Besides reducing your risk of heart disease, regular and yes even short 10 minute stints of exercise expands your lung capacity, strengthens your body, helps control your weight, alleviates depression, and improves your overall health. So get moving, if only for 10 minutes. Take small steps to incorporate your 10 minute workout into the activities you're already doing. You'll find yourself healthier and happier for only 10 minutes a day.

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How To Reclaim Your Day After Waking Up On The Wrong Side Of The Bed

It can happen to anyone. It has happened to us all. The alarm goes off and you put your feet on the floor with a little more force. You're going about your daily activities under a dark cloud. You don't know how or why, but you're in a funk. You woke up on the wrong side of the bed, but if you don't quickly reset, the whole day (for both you and your family) is ruined and you certainly don't want to model morning grumpy behavior to your kids. Here are ways that you can reset your day after waking up on the wrong side of the bed:

Immediately Take Mental Note Of Blessings And Plan More: Spend the first fifteen minutes before your feet hit the floor taking inventory of what you have to be grateful for. Journaling is a great way to do this. Once you've gotten into the habit of recalling your blessings it will become second nature. You'll look forward to it daily and it will instantly boost your morning mood. After you've inventoried your blessings, make plans for at least one nice thing to do for yourself that day. Whether it's buying a single rose during your lunch hour or giving yourself permission to fall asleep to sitcom TV, determine what would bring a little happiness to your day and give yourself permission to just do it.

Get Moving: After you've counted your blessings and made fun plans, get up and busy yourself. Don't dwell on your bad feelings. The faster you move, the less time you will have to think about your mood. If you can squeeze in a quick jog or power walk on your way to work or school, you'll relieve tension, raise your energy levels, boost your mood and later feel a great sense of accomplishment for taking care of yourself and leaving the wrong side of the bed behind.

Take Inventory: Sometimes there is absolutely no rhyme or reason whatsoever for being greeted by the wrong side of the bed. But often if you are honest, introspective, and willing to dig deeper, you can pinpoint the reason for your morning mood. Did you wake up to see the house a mess? Are you dreading an activity you must accomplish today? Be honest because identifying the problem is the first, vital step toward solving it. Once you've identified the reason, take small steps to remedy it. Doing so will give you a sense of control and immediately lighten your mood.

Laugh At Something - Especially Yourself: Laughter is one of the best yet easiest ways to lighten any situation. Turn on a funny morning show, plug in just one scene from a funny movie or best of all step back and see the humor in the wrong side of the bed scenario. Think about it. Some of the best comedians in the world make their livings off of poking fun at life's mundane gone wrong - the bad haircuts, the missteps, and the struggles in relationships or parenting. The lack of control over these things makes it necessary that you be able to laugh at them. Doing so will immediately diminish their power.

We all wake up on the wrong side of the bed sometimes. But there is no reason to allow it to ruin our entire day and taint every activity we try to accomplish. Immediately take action as soon as you sense something is off. Count your blessings, make fun plans, get moving, take a quick inventory of your life and make small, meaningful changes. Then have a good belly laugh and reclaim your day on the other side of the bed.

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Relax! You Already Have Access To Everything Your Baby Needs

You don't need a degree in child development or a huge bank account to give your baby what he needs to grow and thrive. Luckily, research confirms what parents intuitively know: you already have access to everything your baby needs. Providing love, attention and basic care goes a long way toward raising a healthy, happy baby. Here's the nutshell version of what experts say parents can do to ensure your baby gets off to the best possible start:

Love Your Baby Every Chance You Get: Scientific evidence shows that unconditional love, demonstrated affection, and lots of attention in the first years of your baby's life greatly impact his physical, mental and emotional health. Hug, play, laugh, engage in eye contact, and listen as often as you can. Experts say it is impossible to spoil a baby before his first birthday. Shower your baby with joyful love and attention without holding back.

Prioritize Your Baby's Basic Needs Over Material Things: One of the most important things you can do for your baby is to prioritize his basic needs so that he'll enjoy the good health and energy necessary for learning, growing and thriving. You can do this by:

responding to your baby's physical needs promptly by soothing and reassuring your baby quickly if he's cold, hungry, wet or just needs a cuddle;

providing your baby a balanced diet adequate in protein, vitamins, minerals and nutrients which is neither too low nor too high in calories;

staying up to date on his regular well-baby checkups and immunizations;

Making his sleep and rest a priority. Your baby's brain cells need sleep for the development of learning, movement and thought.

Stimulate Your Baby's Senses By Talking, Reading, Singing, Moving And Playing: Research shows that babies whose parents regularly engaged and read to them have significantly higher IQs and larger vocabularies than babies who didn't receive much parental stimulation. Converse with baby as you diaper, feed or bathe him and make eye contact. Reading is one of the most important things you can do to help build your baby's vocabulary, stimulate his imagination and improve his language skills. Reading at bedtime is a wonderful tradition, but also schedule regular trips to libraries and story times. Sensory stimulation feeds a baby's brain. Provide sensory experiences through playing with toys, singing, playing games and introducing your baby to new, safe experiences compatible with your comfort level. Give your baby plenty of room to explore and play. To develop strong muscles, coordination, and balance babies need plenty of space to explore where they aren't told "no" or "carefree."

Take Care Of Yourself To Take Care Of Your Baby: Parents who are depressed or upset are often unable to respond swiftly and sensitively to their baby's needs. Talk with your doctor any time you think you may be struggling. If you're feeling drained, find ways to divide the household and parenting responsibilities with others who are usually more than willing to help. Take even small, regular amounts of time for your own enjoyment. Realize that practicing self care will make you a more refreshed, patient, and effective parent.

Parents can understandably experience anxiety at adequately meeting their baby's every need. Relax in the knowledge that you already have access to everything your baby needs right inside your own loving home and within your own giving heart.

Salvia: Lethal And Legal: What You Must Know To Protect Your Teen

If you hear your teen talking about salvia, magic mint or Maria Pastora, he's not referring to a kid at school, a kind of gum, or mispronouncing the proper name for spit. He's talking about a new, legal drug (salvia) that is becoming increasingly popular among teens and college students. Here is what parents must know about salvia:

Salvia Is A Legal, Potent Hallucinogen: Salvia, or salvia divinorum, is a herb native to Mexico that is typically smoked to create a hallucinogenic "high". Salvia was originally used by Indians for healing. It is widely used today as a legal alternative to hallucinogens like LSD. In fact, the hallucinogenic chemical in salvia, salvinorin-A, is chemically similar to the active ingredient in LSD. The concentration of salvinorin-A is located in salvia's leaves and stems. While salvia can be steeped in a tea or chewed, it's usually smoked. That's because it takes too long (5-10 minutes) to feel the effects of chewing. When smoked, salvia's effects are nearly immediate and last for up to 30 minutes. The user's experience can include out-of-body visions, delusional thinking, paranoia and seriously impaired judgment. In most states, salvia is totally legal and is readily available for purchase on the Internet. Bags of salvia typically cost around $20 per ounce. Rarely do buyers receive any warnings about potential risks. There are only a handful of countries (Australia, Belgium, Denmark, Estoria, Finland, Italy, Spain and Swedenin) in which salvia has been placed under regulatory. Within the U.S., salvia is illegal only in Louisiana. Delaware, Missouri, Tennessee and Oklahoma have placed controls on Salvia. In the rest of the nation and on the Internet, salvia is completely legal.

Parents Must Educate Their Children About The Dangers Of Salvia: For confused, impressionable teens seeking anything to help them fit in and solve problems, salvia can undoubtedly be tempting. Even more frightening to parents is the fact that most lawmakers have not yet addressed salvia's dangers. Many teens are under the impression that salvia is safe because it is legal. It is up to parents to change this perception and to treat salvia like any other dangerous drug about which you should educate your children. Lovingly present your teen with the facts before he's in a risky situation. Make clear that you intend the conversation to be an open, loving exchange. When kids don't feel comfortable talking to parents, they're likely to seek unreliable, dangerous answers elsewhere.

Parents Should Provide A Supportive Home Environment That Minimizes Your Child's Salvia Risk: Ensure that your child is not among those at high risk for salvia experimentation. Kids with friends who use drugs are more likely to try drugs themselves. Feeling socially isolated makes a child more vulnerable to drugs. Know your child's friends and his parents. Be involved in your child's life and in any anti-drug program your child's school offers. Pay attention to how your child is feeling and let him know that you are always available and willing to listen and help in a nonjudgmental way. Recognize when he is going through difficult times so that you can provide the support needed or seek professional help if necessary. Create a warm, open family environment where your teen knows he is safe to discuss all issues and share any feelings. Make your home a place where achievements are praised and self-esteem is bolstered. When censored or uncomfortable in their own homes, kids go elsewhere to find support and acceptance.

With salvia being so widely available, legal and cheap, parents must take every available action to ensure their kids don't find salvia too intriguing to refuse. Inform and educate your child about salvia's dangers and misconceptions and provide a safe, caring environment where open communication is exchanged. Doing so will help strengthen your relationship with your child and increase the chance that your child will pass on salvia and make better choices.

Meningitis: A Deadly Infection In Close Quarters: Why Students And Children Are Vulnerable

The recent deaths of previously healthy college students has spurred concerns about how meningitis is formed, spread and treated. According to the MFA (Meningitis Foundation Of America), there are nearly 6,000 new cases of the dangerous bacterial meningitis every year. Children of all ages are susceptible. Although meningitis is relatively rare compared to other infections, the seriousness of bacterial meningitis' sudden, severe and sometimes fatal symptoms strike fear into the hearts of parents everywhere. Vaccines are available, but are not universally required. Here are the latest facts on meningitis and information on how you can protect your family:

What Is Meningitis And Why Children, Students And The Elderly Are Vulnerable?: Meningitis is a serious infection that causes inflammation of the membranes that cover the brain and spinal cord. Except in rare cases, it is caused by either viruses or bacteria. Viral meningitis, the most common type, usually causes mild symptoms and clears up on it's own within a few weeks. Bacterial meningitis is potentially fatal and requires immediate, and sometimes drastic medical attention including amputation. Lasting effects from bacterial meningitis can include deafness, paralysis and seizures. Anyone who spends a good deal of time in or lives in a group setting (day cares, college dorms, nursing homes) is at increased risk for meningitis. Young children are particularly susceptible to bacterial meningitis. Meningitis is spread through coughing, sneezing, kissing, and sharing cups, forks and spoons. Meningitis is not caught through casual contact. Parents should teach children about covering coughs and sneezes and not sharing anything from which they drink or eat. Also, encourage your children to wash their hands frequently. Doing so helps remove any germs with which your child might have come in contact.

Diagnosing, Treatment And Prevention: Early diagnosis is critical to a good outcome. Treatment for the less severe viral meningitis includes merely treating symptoms and making a patient comfortable since the patient will usually recover on his own in a matter of weeks. The more serious bacterial meningitis is typically treated with immediate and rapid doses of strong antibiotics. Most cases are diagnosed between the months of November and March.

Vaccines that prevent meningitis are widely available. The CDC recently modified its recommendations about when best to get vaccinated against meningitis, recommending that all persons aged 11-55 be vaccinated with the MCV4 vaccine (Menactra). Mandatory vaccinations are currently in place in only approximately 20 colleges. Most colleges allow students to sign a waiver to opt out of the vaccination. Only 12% of college students received the vaccination in 2006, but officials are hoping these numbers are rising. Many states are currently considering making the vaccine mandatory and opting out more difficult.

An older meningitis vaccine (MPSV4- known as Menomune) is recommended for children aged 2-10 who are at high risk for meningitis.

The CDC says that like any vaccine, Menactra may carry side effects such as allergic reaction and redness or pain around the injected area. Menactra has allegedly been linked to a few extremely rare cases of Guillain-Barre syndrome (statistically 1.25 times for every 1 million meningitis vaccines given) but the CDC reports that the vast majority of reactions are mild ones and the tiny risk or reaction is worth the protection the vaccine offers:

“It’s (Menacrea) a safe vaccination, it’s an effective vaccination, and it’s one of those terrible, terrible risks — albeit extremely rare — that you can really minimize by spending money on the vaccine,” says Dr. Jim Turner, Chair of the Vaccine-Preventable Diseases Committee for the American College Health Association.

Meningitis is a real concern for children, students and for seniors. Fortunately, practicing good hygiene such as frequent hand washing and the avoidance of sharing cups, utensils and close quarters, along with being up-to-date on recommended vaccinations, make getting Meningitis less likely.

Fun Alternatives To Halloween Candy and What To Do With Leftover Halloween Candy

Sometimes even the most fun-loving parent can't help but cringe when the kids dump all of their collected Halloween candy on the living room floor. Unfortunately, candy is no longer limited to evening trick or treating. Well meaning teachers, bus drivers, cashiers, and even coaches sometimes give out candy. Although some experts claim that children's behavior is not affected by excess sugar, any parent or teacher who has witnessed a roomful of kids jazzed up on sweets would certainly disagree.

No one can argue that candy is nutritionally void and full of sugar that can contribute to obesity and tooth decay.

According to the U.S.D.A. Agricultural Research Service, some kids already consume an average of 21 to 23 teaspoons of sugar a day. And the U.S. Centers for Disease Control say that at least 15% of children today are overweight.

Luckily, there are fun alternatives you can give out in lieu of candy that will be loved just as much by kids and loathed much less by parents. There are also safe, politically correct ways to purge your kids' excess candy, put it to better use, and safe your kids' teeth and waste line:

Alternatives To Candy:

1. Tiny bottles of bubbles that come in a case at the dollar store.

2. Kid-sized water bottles -- trick or treaters get thirsty and the water will help keep the sugar from sticking to their teeth.

3. Tailgating-type treats. Buy bulk hot dogs and grill them in the front yard. All of your neighbors can stop by to grab a snack and visit with one another while the children play. Everyone can socialize and take a break from trick or treating for candy.

4. Pennies. Many kids will chose money (even pennies wrapped in orange cellophane) over yet another piece of candy. (Not an option for small children who could choke on small objects).

5. Glow in the dark bracelets. These are popular with kids and make them more easily seen.

How To Rid Your Home Of Excess Candy:

6. Immediately recycle it. Have your kids quickly pick out their favorite few handfuls of candy. Send items still tightly packaged and sealed right back out the door to the next batch of trick or treaters.

7. Package up candy along with other packaged food items and create a care package for soldiers oversees that weren't able to celebrate a traditional Halloween this year.

8. Save many varieties of candy for a Thanksgiving day piñata or save hard candy for Christmas gingerbread houses, wreaths and ornaments.

9. Save a few handfuls of candy for a rain or snow day scavenger hunt.

10. Offer to buy it ($5 for the whole bag) or trade it for a small toy your child wants.

5 Tips For Parents Dating After A Divorce

No matter what happened during your divorce or when, chances are there will come a time when you want to start dating again. However, it’s important for parents to remember that the dating choices they make greatly affect not only themselves but their children. Making healthy, careful dating choices will help greatly contribute to the healing process for your entire family. Here are the five tips experts wish divorced parents knew about dating:


1. Give Yourself And Your Children Plenty Of Time To Heal And Adapt Before You Start Dating: No matter how friendly and cordial your divorce, you and your children will need time to adjust and heal before you allow another person into your lives. It’s important that you take the time to process, analyze and heal any issues that contributed to or were the result of your divorce. Not doing so sets the new relationship up for failure for all involved. Statistically, second marriages are less successful than first ones (over 60 percent of second marriages fail) so take all of the time you need to process why the first marriage failed. Most experts recommend waiting a year after martial separation to date, but this is an individual choice. If the thought of dating doesn’t yet feel right, wait.

2. When You Begin Dating, Be Upfront And Reassuring With Your Children: Fill your children in on your intentions, but keep it casual. Inform them that you’d like to start making friends and spending time with adults your own age. Acknowledge and address any feelings your children may express and reassure them that you will always keep all of your best interests in mind and would never let dating interfere with your time together.

3. Make Initial Introductions And Outings Casual: Never try to force a new person on your children for long periods of time. Make sure initial introductions are fun, casual outings where the children can have an out if they’re uncomfortable. Let your children get to know this new person slowly over time at their own pace. You're going to have a much healthier relationship if your children genuinely get a long with the new person, so do everything in your power to let the children initiate and pace their own relationship. It’s also vitally important you do not allow your children to develop deep feelings for someone until you’re absolutely sure that person is here to stay. Your children have already been through a lot of emotional drama with the divorce. You do not want the child to have to go through this again with another breakup.

4. Maintain Family Time And Traditions Separate From Your Dating Relationship: No matter how great the person you are dating is, your children deserve time with only you doing things you enjoyed and could look forward to before the dating relationship. If you don’t honor your children’s special time and traditions, they will eventually resent the person you are dating for taking this (and you) away.

5. Always See The Situation From Your Children’s Point Of View: There are bound to be times when you’re unsure how of how to best proceed for all involved. In situations when you aren’t sure what to do, simply put yourself in your children’s position. Really put yourself in their shoes and imagine how they must feel, even if their feelings seem irrational to you at the time. Looking at things from your children’s perspective will almost always point you in the right direction - on the path to their best interest.

5 Tips For Staying Safe While Trick Or Treating This Halloween

Halloween is fast becoming one of the most popular holidays of the year. Trick or treating is the icing on the Halloween cake. What’s not to love - free candy, fun costumes and being with family and friends? But, it’s important not to let the excitement of the holiday overshadow the need for being diligent to keep kids safe while trick or treating. Here are tips to stay safe while trick or treating this Halloween:

1. Make Sure Your Child Can See And Be Seen Clearly: Masks, hats and wigs can sometimes obscure your child’s vision, making him vulnerable to tripping over things on a dark Halloween night or worse being unable to judge distance of oncoming cars as he tries to cross the street. Take a look at your child’s costume to evaluate how well he can see. If need be, enlarge mask eye holes with scissors or tighten hats or wigs that are falling into your child’s face. Stick bright reflective tape on your child’s trick or treat bag or have your child wear a neon necklace so your child can be easily seen in the dark.

2. Make Sure Your Child’s Costume Is Flame Resistant: If you are making the costume yourself, use flame resistant materials. If you are buying your child’s costume, make sure the label specifically says “made with flame resistant materials.” This is because candles and jack lanterns bearing candles are rampant on Halloween. Many child’s costumes are long and flowing both at arm and foot level. It’s very easy for even a careful child to come in contact with a candle’s flame.

3. Accompany Your Child At All Times: It is very common for rushed children to run ahead of parents in the excitement of trick or treating. Children have a hard enough time safely crossing the street on a bright sunny day because of their size, their inability to accurately judge distance and speed, and their age or developmental level, but this process is much harder in the dark of Halloween night, when kids are running between parked cards and trying to quickly get from one home to another. Make sure your child understands running ahead of you is dangerous and unacceptable.

4. Make Sure Children Understand Not To Consume Anything Until You Inspect It: Although tampered-with candy is rare, make sure your child understands that he can not put anything in his mouth until you check it at home. You need to be able to inspect items in a well-lit area to make sure the items are wrapped, sealed and fresh. Also, some homes give out specialty items like stickers, erasers, and coins, so it’s important that small children do not mistake these items for candy and pop them into their mouths.

5. Never Approach A Home That Is Not Fully Lit Or Enter A Stranger’s Home: Not everyone welcomes trick or treaters. The universal signal of a trick or treating participant is turning on a porch light or standing outside to distribute candy. Never allow your child to approach a home that doesn’t meet this criteria. Make sure children understand they should NEVER enter the home of a stranger - no matter how good the candy or how enticing the promise.

Trick or Treating is one of the most anticipated activities of the year. Make sure your child has the good time he has anticipated by keeping him safe so you will both have fun memories to savor.

5 Rules Divorcing / Divorced Parents Must Know

If you're a parent in thinking about, in the middle of, or looking back on a divorce, there are several important rules experts wish you knew (and I wish my own parents knew) for the sake of your children, even if you think they're handling the divorce just fine:

Never Force Your Children To Split Their Loyalties And Love: Never criticize or speak ill of your ex spouse in front of your children. Doing so may cause your children to wonder if it's possible to love both of you. Children should feel free to love both of their parents without feeling disloyal or guilty. Don't force your children to divide love and loyalties amongst their parents.

Encourage Your Kids To Express Their Concerns When They're Relaxed And Listen When They Do: It's vitally important that your children are able to release any emotions or concerns they're feeling about the divorce but they're often reluctant to do so for fear of worsening the situation. Don't just give an open-ended directive encouraging your children to come to you if and when they have questions. Initiate discussion during the times you would normally talk like when making dinner or running errands. Don't let the moment slip by because you're afraid of saying the wrong things. Your honesty, openness, sincerity and concern for your children is more important them than the actual words that you use. Your job is to reassure your children that their feelings, whatever they may be, are appropriate and that you as a family are going to work through them together.

Make Sure Your Children Receive A Message Of Unity, Reassurance And Support Before You Mention The Word Divorce: Both parents should present a united front when you tell your children about the divorce. The children are likely to feel immediate alarm and shock, blocking out what you are saying after only a few minutes. In the moments before you even mention the word divorce, you should reassure your children that what you're about to tell them is in no way their fault and that they will in no way lose love, support, or quality time with either parent.

Make Sure Your Children Know The Divorce Is Not Their Fault: Children often blame themselves for a divorce and secretly believe that they can fix things if they try hard enough. It's important your children understand this is not the case so that they won't blame themselves and feel that they failed when the divorce moves forward. If the children ask for the reason for your divorce, offer only generalities like "we both made bad choices that we now can't take back."

Follow Through On Your Promises: No matter how much reassurance you offer your children, they will always initially secretly fear that their lives are going to be very negatively effected by your divorce. The only way to show them this isn't true is to prove it to them over time. Even if your divorce is difficult, do exactly what you assured your children you were going to: continue to love them, continue to offer them quality time with and access to both parents. Continue day to day rituals and schedules with a positive attitude.

Whether your children openly discuss their feelings and concerns, divorce can be very difficult for children. To make the process a healthier one for the children you love, always put your children and their well-being before your divorce and its difficulties. Remembering that your children are still entitled to two supportive, involved parents will go a long way toward helping your child to cope with and heal from a divorce.

How To Limit The Onslaught Of Halloween Sugar And Candy

FOCUS ON ATTRACTIVE, HEALTHY ALTERNATIVES: Parents can make a conscious and yearly effort to create alternative Halloween traditions that place the focus on activity, not on treats - i.e hosting your own Halloween costume or craft party, coordinating a scavenger hunt (with toys, not candy, for prizes), participating in many of the candy-free harvest carnivals offered by churches and community centers, or spinning spooky tunes in the front yard to entertain passing neighbors.

A recent Halloween study found that children between three and fourteen were just as likely to chose toys as candy when offered both. So don’t sweat offering alternatives to gooey goodies. Non-food Halloween items like pencils, stickers, and temporary tattoos are great alternatives. You can also chose healthier foods for trick or treaters like individual packages of graham crackers, mini boxes of raisins, or sugar free gum.

LIMIT THE DAMAGE: No matter how conscious you are about how you spend Halloween, it’s inevitable that your child will probably be exposed to candy. You’ll just need a plan to dispose of any excess. Some parents have success with allowing a few small pieces a day until most of the candy is gone or the kids lose interest. You can also offer to trade most of the candy for a bigger, more desirable prize, like a coveted Barbie doll or action figure. Even offering $5 for all but a few handfuls of candy is cheaper than a filling and less painful than a toothache. Dentists suggests letting children eat candy after a meal because the body will produce more saliva to help neutralize acids that can attach to tiny teeth. The worst time to eat candy is right before bed. Have kids rinse out their mouths and brush thoroughly after a candy feast, no matter what time of the day. What do dentists consider the worst candies for teeth? Anything that sticks to the teeth and stays there -- things like dots, gummy bears, suckers and hard candies. The best choices for “oral clearance” (spends the less time clinging to teeth) is chocolate because it melts quickly.

PURGE THE EXCESS: Once you’ve convinced your child to give up the extra candy, get it out reach so it’s not longer a lingering temptation. Freeze some chocolate bars to melt for s’mores, brownies, or fondue on future winter days. Consider cutting up the rest to use as chocolate chips for baked goods you can make with your kids to give to senior citizen centers, military personnel, or any one special to your heart. Packaging up homemade cookies for the school crossing guard can make your child feel good about giving to others and take the focus off the candy.

USE HALLOWEEN TO TEACH SMART CHOICES, BUT DON’T DWELL: Halloween is a great time to talk to your children about the importance of making good nutritional choices, but you may not want to portray that message as one of overwhelming sacrifice. Once you’ve come up with a workable game plan that allows every one a little indulgence, explain the limits, but don’t dwell on them. You can’t raise a child and take away everything that is fun. The key is moderation and parental involvement. So offer your little spider-man or princess a slew of fun alternatives not focused solely on candy, but when they savor their hauls, know that treats in moderation are part of the thrill. Then help them learn to make good choices and figure out a useful way to share the extras.

Reading With Children: Are Scary Books Or Fairy Tales Harmful To Your Child?

Yesterday’s fairy tales and today’s scary books are filled with conflicting vivid imagery of both good and evil. It is no wonder that many parents pause when the wolf is seconds away from making a meal of Little Red Riding Hood or The Magic Treehouse’s Jack and Annie are surrounded by circling sharks. Parents can’t help but wonder if the scary content is harmful or if children are perceptive enough to internalize any dark meanings.

Only The Broad Brush: Many experts reassure us that children mostly take these stories at face value and nothing more. Children typically only get the “broad brush” of the story -- i.e. the hero wins out and the villain is defeated. Experts even say well chosen fairy tales can actually be a learning tool for children, helping them through developmental stages by reassuring them that virtuous behavior, perseverance and accepting help can aid them in overcoming obstacles. Fairy tales often conveniently explore common issues children face as they come of age like the fear of abandonment, vanity, greed, envy and sibling rivalry, leaving those issues wide open for parent discussion.

Watch Out For Stereotypes: In contrast though, some scholars caution that traditional fairy tales encourage negative stereotypes that imply it pays to be physically pretty which could contribute to young women feeling they are inferior if they don’t meet unrealistic standards of beauty. Parents can counter this by initiating frank discussions about any stereotypes a book contains.

Carefully Evaluate Books Before Your Read Them: How can parents determine which stories are appropriate for their children? Experts like books that allow a child to witness the main character transcend the events that challenge him and become a stronger person in the end. Carefully consider the subject matter of a book, your child's personality as well as his social, language, and cognitive developmental levels.

Experts say parents should never force a book on an apprehensive child, instead carefully reading an unfamiliar story before sharing it. If there is any doubt whether the child is ready, wait. Consider forgoing movie versions for the corresponding book because a book’s visuals are usually much less intense for young children and allow a child to simply close the book or look away if it becomes too scary. And remember there are many different book versions of the same story. Many editors will greatly water down or even omit scary parts in collections for younger children.

So if your 5th grader begs to read yet another Goosebumps, or your preschooler wants to hear Sleeping Beauty for the one hundredth time, be glad they want to read and know that you can use the books as a starting point to discuss important issues.

Children Know The Difference Between Fantasy And Reality: Finally, don‘t worry so much that kids blur the lines between fantasy and reality. Children know the difference between reality and fantasy and can easily digest the enormity of a character’s problem if it is presented in a fantasy-like fashion.

Most adults who read fairy tales and scary stories as children grew up with the full realization that mirrors don’t engage in conversation and magic beans don’t literally exist, but it can still fun to read about them. Isn’t part of the enchantment of childhood believing in a little magic?